This past weekend, I was wondering Why I did not have more BLOG followers...and it came to me.... I did not ask my friends & family to "Follow My Blog", www.NakiaEvans.com. So this past weekend, I decided that it was time to introduce my new webblog to my facebook family and guess what..... I now have 21 followers!
That may not sound like many, but that's a great start for me....because I'm a new "Blogger"!
Today, the first quote that popped into my brain was "Ask and You Shall Receive"..... so I "googled it"...and I found a website, Personal-Development.com. It's funny that this website would be my first google result. I am always preaching "personal development" is the key to leadership.....
On the personal development website, I found an article entitled "Ask and You Shall Receive" and today I'm sharing it with You!! It's written by Chuck Gallozzi & I'd like to thank him for this article, because I believe it will help me with my Direct Sales business in 2011.... and could possibly help you with your Home-based business as well!
Enjoy this part of Chuck's article, to check out more articles from Chuck, visit his website!
To start getting more out of life, we need to ask ourselves a series of questions. Questions like, “What do I want that I am not asking for now? What is needed to get what I want? Who can help me get what I need? What are the obstacles I need to overcome? What path of action should I take to overcome these obstacles? What are the worst and best that could happen by asking? What is most likely to happen? What am I waiting for?
Also, prepare the way by following another universal law, which is, “You only receive what you give away.” In other words, before you can expect others to respond favorably to your requests, you have to willingly cooperate with those asking for your help. Be generous and kind. This sets in motion relationships and networks that are predisposed to help you because you are worthy of it.
Need more help around the house from your spouse? Need more training to improve your job performance? Need your neighbor to stop blocking your driveway with his pickup truck? Need your doctor to explain in greater detail what your options are? Need help in doing your school report? Need to have your friend stop blabbing about the things you tell her in private? Accomplish your aims; achieve your wishes, and get what you want out of life by ASKING for it.
To maximize your chances of success, here are some pointers to keep in mind.
1. Explain your need and desire for help. Make a request, not a demand.
2. Accept refusals graciously. Thank them for their consideration. Don’t sulk. As the Russians say, “Ask a lot, but take what is offered.” Show gratitude when they help; show understanding when they don’t.
3. Don’t try to get what you want by manipulation. Don’t try to make the other party feel guilty for refusing.
4. Don’t ask others to do what you can do without their help. Show some initiative.
5. Don’t ask for advice or suggestions if all you want is to have someone agree with your preconceptions.
6. Don’t make unreasonable requests. Don’t ask someone to do what you are not willing to do for them.
7. Don’t ask God, unless you believe He is Santa Claus. God helps those who help themselves. Save your prayers for prayers of thanksgiving.
8. Don’t be vague. For example, don’t tell your coworker she isn’t cooperative enough, but be precise in explaining what you need. For example, “Mary, I need you to come to the meetings on time. And the Month’s End Report must be completed by the 27th of each month. Whenever a problem occurs, tell me about it immediately so we can resolve the difficulty and meet our deadlines.”
9. Many married couples or close friends expect their mate or friend to be a mind reader. Don’t fall into this trap. Others are NOT aware of what is going on inside your head or the emotions you are experiencing. Thoughts such as, “If he really loved me, he would know how I feel” are sheer fantasy. You are capable of an infinite range of desires, thoughts, and feelings. Even the Amazing Kreskin won’t be able to decipher them unless you reveal them. So, don’t hide your thoughts, but share them by asking for what you want.
10. Remain committed to your goals and don’t get discouraged when your requests for help are turned down. You will never lose if you never quit. Just keep trying. The stakes are high and your efforts will be rewarded, sometimes in ways that are not immediately obvious.
Asking for what you want doesn’t mean you will get everything you ask for. But it does mean you will get MORE out of life. Imagine the tragedy of the many things that are lost simply because we are not asking for them. So, let ’s reach out and grab the fruit of life, the many rewards that are ours just for the asking!
© Chuck Gallozzi
For more articles and contact information, Visit http://www.personal-development.com/chuck
What will YOU Ask for in 2011?
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